tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9326984.post114412625737874432..comments2023-04-04T11:31:01.006-04:00Comments on Irrelevant Opinions: Was better aloneFrazzahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02611431995183800220noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9326984.post-1145127252387100922006-04-15T14:54:00.000-04:002006-04-15T14:54:00.000-04:00Yes, it was in Montreal. I think everyone was aff...Yes, it was in Montreal. I think everyone was affected by that incident somehow, whether they knew the victims and the killers or not. It just shattered the illusion of peaceful suburbia that we had all grown up with, and I think most of us came out of it a little wiser.<BR/><BR/>I'm thankful that I wasn't one of those who learned it the hard way. I sympathize with those who do.Frazzahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02611431995183800220noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9326984.post-1145068097080115872006-04-14T22:28:00.000-04:002006-04-14T22:28:00.000-04:00Montreal? I think I remember that...I knew people ...Montreal? I think I remember that...I knew people who knew them. <BR/>The cool people usually end up crackheads, in jail, or dead<BR/>Some of us have learned this the hard wayAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9326984.post-1144518981338892762006-04-08T13:56:00.000-04:002006-04-08T13:56:00.000-04:00Technically, we've known each other for 24 years s...Technically, we've known each other for 24 years so the first 4 were probably hard to remember since we were toddlers.<BR/><BR/>Regarding how this post explains a lot about you, I'll leave that for another day inshallah. ;)Naumanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13984809110650620788noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9326984.post-1144420590767289582006-04-07T10:36:00.000-04:002006-04-07T10:36:00.000-04:00Interesting comments ... The internet, and more sp...Interesting comments ... <BR/><BR/>The internet, and more specifically Google, has made it such that the nerds and "popular" people are no longer mutually exclusive. So today, it's okay to be a nerd if that's who you are. In fact, I think as people get older, they become more accepting of different values and interests (for the most part - there are some people who never grow up.) Anyway, one of the best things of post-high school life I think is that popularity stops mattering, and the social structure becomes more of a meritocracy.<BR/><BR/>The common thread in the comments is that certain incidents - whether they be tragic, traumatic, or painful ones, or happy ones - really help shape a person. It's strange that, often in the worst situations, some good comes out of it in the end - at least, at a personal level. It may be a tragedy for someone else, but it somehow triggers a change for the better in oneself.<BR/><BR/>I'm curious, Nauman, as to what this incident does in explaining who I am, especially since we've known each other for over 20 years.Frazzahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02611431995183800220noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9326984.post-1144263799594766802006-04-05T15:03:00.000-04:002006-04-05T15:03:00.000-04:00This post explains a lot about who you are... it a...This post explains a lot about who you are... it all makes sense now. :)<BR/><BR/>I think everyone has a critical event in their life which sets them on a particular path to which they follow for the rest of their lives. In your case, this traumatic event helped shape and mould you on a different path than what you were following prior to it. May Allah (SWT) make it easy for you and keep you safe.Naumanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13984809110650620788noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9326984.post-1144248048675345082006-04-05T10:40:00.000-04:002006-04-05T10:40:00.000-04:00Faraz,First, I think that you underestimate your s...Faraz,<BR/><BR/>First, I think that you underestimate your social popularity.<BR/><BR/>Second, wow...that is a very ugly story - I can't imagine how horrible that must have been.<BR/><BR/>Third, I agree with 'liya - there are definitely moments in life that have more influence towards our being than others. Sometimes they are big, like this one for you, and act as a catalyst for change. I myself have had a few similar ones; thankfully, not as gruesome. Oppositely, and to me more interestingly, there are moments, that are just as influencing that occur in a much more undercover way. Moments whose significance is only clear through hindsight. You know those ones where you think, 'what if I hadn't have been at that place, at that time'. <BR/><BR/>I am not going to judge who the best people are, but I think that it is unfortunate that young adolescence popularity is inversely proportionate to social popularity. I remember experiencing some of those same feelings. Though, I was never an academic powerhouse. I am greatful that my parents - and my extended support group - always encouraged me to continue to care about accademic success, but at the same time encouraged me in my pursuit of things non-academic, which I believe to be just as important - as long as the those pursuits are done with good, and not 'evil', at heart.<BR/><BR/>My last word on the topic, from my experience, the kids that are the coolest in Grade 9, rarely are the 'coolest' by graduation. The rare examples, are not the non-academic, rebelling, viloent drifters - they are the natural gifted people, that will likely be leaders their entire lives.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9326984.post-1144218705110223222006-04-05T02:31:00.000-04:002006-04-05T02:31:00.000-04:00wow.. that was really powerfuli think we all have ...wow.. that was really powerful<BR/><BR/>i think we all have a wake up call at some point with who we associate ourselves with <BR/><BR/>inshallah you'll continue to stay with your academically strong but socially unpopular group - those are really the best people :)'liyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09682312785305176809noreply@blogger.com